Children are a mandate from God. Then it is not light that the burden of the parents who have received the trust from God. And because of the mandate, it should be maintained and cared for in accordance with the message of the giving party, which in this case is Allah SWT. For this reason, we as parents are required to nurture and guide our children to Religion in accordance with nature (human instincts) so that they have noble character and become devoted human beings.
They are like white paper. It is we who will give the color of the painting what we want. As Tabularasa’s Theory, where it is evident that children who have lived in a Jewish environment since childhood will become Jews, those who live in a Christian environment will also become Christians, Mothers and so on.
Therefore caring for children should start early, because the development of the child’s soul has begun to grow since he was small, according to his nature. Thus, we channel the nature of humans, we guide and we direct to the path that should be in accordance with its direction. Because as parents and teachers (educators in schools) must really know that so much responsibility to Allah’azza wa jalla for the education of their children.
Procedures for good parenting:
1. Behavior Formation Through Habit of Actions Since Children Are Still Small
A famous failusuf, Charles Reade, said: “Even though you reap a habit, you habit and you reap a character, character and you reap a destiny,” which means freely, “If we are sure will be something of a view or mind so plant that thought in an act, then you will reap (get results) which is called behavior.
2. Parental authority
The two things that have been explained before, namely about “Exemplary Examples” and “Familiarizing Behavior from Childhood,” are very closely related to the problem of PARENTS ‘AUTHORITY. Children will imitate the example of parents and want to carry out behaviors that are accustomed to parents’ instructions, if all of them feel reluctant to parents.
As a result of reluctance to the authority of the parents arises a sense of obedience and full submission willingly and peacefully. But when the child does not have a sense of reluctance to parents, that is the sign that parents do not have authority in the presence of the child. If the “Authority” and the authority of the parent is gone or has faded, the child will be “screwed up” because no one is “feared”.
3. Clever Parenting
Parenting is an art too. Even though there are also methodologies, the pedagogics are equipped with general psychology, child psychology, or educational psychology, but because they are faced with children who have souls, and besides their mental and spiritual conditions are different, then without art, education is less successful . Until herein lies the need for the nature of wisdom in caring for children. Parenting is clearly not synonymous with authoritarianism, nor is it synonymous with paternalistic, which protects the students too much. Although these two traits are sometimes needed, the application should be in accordance with the conditions of the child and the atmosphere of the events that occur.